Lava Lamp

I will comment tomorrow. A lot happened. I just realized Christmas is next week. I am going shopping now.

I hope everything is okay. I was thinking about starting my drive south tomorrow morning, I might wait until Friday to make sure you're okay.

Very cute.
The plan is for us to drive upstate to visit Roy's family for New Year's. we are leaving on 12/30. I have no desire to go or see his family. I haven't seen them since last New Year so Roy is forcing me to go. AND I have to take Lu with us. Ridiculous!
Anyway, every time we go upstate I end up fighting with him because I do NOT approve of his mother. I think she is an idiot. I spoke with her on Thanksgiving and asked to speak with S, Roy's 13 yr old sister. His mother informed me that S is in NC visiting her boyfriend. I laughed, she said no really, she is with B. his family moved there five months ago and she was very sad so she will spend 10 days with him. OK, I thought. I would NEVER leave my daughter with her bf for 10 days, but whatever. So I made a comment well at least they're not sharing his bed. She says: oh please, I am sure they've been doing it for a while! WTF? Is this normal? Am I overreacting? If I thought that there was even a remote chance that L was "active" at 13, she would not leave the house without my supervision, and if that makes her depressed to effin bad. deal with it. 13 is waaaay too young to be doing it.
Ok - yesterday, I am speaking with her, and she mentions that S's friend just got her cheek pierced. How old? 13! I said that is ridiculous. What parents in the right mind would allow that, you have to sign a consent. She answers I would. I said really, I think people should be arrested for that. Her answer??? Well S has her tongue pierced and her lip (chin) and she will get an eyebrow piercing this weekend, WTF? Am I overreacting again? I said but S is 13, she said, yes I know, but she really wanted to do it. Is that ridiculous? My answer: do you understand that they pierce faces with a HOLLOW needle and even when you take the piercing out the whole will be visible? Yes, I do but she wanted it. So I said ok, I can;t talk to you anymore, this is really pissing me off. We said good night.
Just a quick disclaimer: I like piercings and tattoos. I love men with eyebrow rings. I do not believe that a 13 yr old should be allowed to pierce anything but their ears no matter how badly they want it. Let them wait until at least 16...WTF?WTF?WTF?
I am pissed just writing about it. I also told her that any facial piercing that has to be taken out to get a job is trashy.
So am I crazy or is she? I think if Lu showed up with a facial piercing at 13 I would make her take it out and then beat her. Literally, beat her. With something that would cause a lot of pain. And if her bf (that she would not be allowed to have at 13) moved, I would not be driving 10 hours to drop her off so she could have 10 days of sex at 13.
So is it me or is it his mother? Am I a prude? Do I lack understanding? Am I (gasp) too old and out of touch? Is this what 13 yr olds do now???
Once a month there is major drama at his mother's. That is why we do not visit often. Because of that I do not trust her with Lu, which really sucks because that means whatever I do Lu has to do it with me.
So, tell me, is it me or is it her?
At least I can tell her what I think...

Maybe we're both out of touch, but the only old one is me. You are young and vibrant.
That woman lacks moral values. It is a problem of our culture, why vs. why not, could I vs. should I, etc. Making the easy choice is more important for her than making the hard choice to do what is right to benefit her daughter in the long run. The result will be a pregnant minor very soon thank you poor parenting skills. It's not just her either, this is what I see in Americans all the time, I think it is us.
Not only does she lack values she is out of her mind. One thing I've learned, always true, you can't argue with a crazy person. Save yourself the headache. At least L has a good mother who knows right from wrong and she will not grow up this way. She's lucky to have you and so is Roy that son of a bitch.

I am still pissed about it. I bet Roy that his sister will be pregnant before I am. He didn't speak with me for a week.
I don't want L seeing this and thinking it is normal either. I can just imagine what explainations will be like when we come back to civilizations and L tells everyone that S has her face pierced.
I thought it was just me...now I realize it is not. It is white trash upstate NY.

I have a plan. Tomorrow afternoon, I will be passing through the city. Meet me at the corner and I will pick you up (in my seriously bad ass mustang) and I will take you away from all this. We will escape together and live happily ever after with no white trash to corrupt young L's impressionable mind. I am not making a joke. You name the corner.

Ummm, there is also Lu and my stuff wouldn't fit in your little car, and I am not a stang fan, remember?
I don't know about VA but I heard that WV is pretty trashy so hmmmm, not sure if anything would change.

Just wanted to let you know that it is snowing here. How are you going to drive your tiny car in this weather?

Merry Christmas! Hope you're having a great time!

Sretan Božić! I hit the snow 70 miles outside of NYC. Then I drove five to ten miles an hour for five hours and stopped in the city at a hotel. That was the flow of traffic, not my car. Thought I saw you everywhere in NY, I was losing my mind. Had a busy week in VA with family and friends, then stopped in NY again on the way up. Just got back in, I will write more soon but I'm a little fried at the moment, stressful vacation. PS stop ragging on my car.

We are on our way upstate now. I will hang out with the pierced pre teen.
How was your time in VA? How is your mom doing?

I am sad to hear that you were forced to go to the nasty hillbilly's for New Year's Eve. You should have waited for me, I would not make you go upstate or to Florida and you would never wreck my mojo. Also I have great abs and a gentlemanly demeanor. Thanks for asking about my mom, she is doing well. As of right now, there is no cancer. There was one small incident over the holidays due to the fact that she insists on wearing a wig at all times until her hair grows back. She leaned into the oven while cooking dinner and singed the front of her wig, but rather than go natural, she found a halloween wig in the closet and wore that around the house for the rest of the day. She felt that it was somehow better. We took christmas pictures in front of the tree like that.
I was so close to calling you when I was in the city, but it was Friday evening when I arrived the first time and Saturday the second trip so I figured you were busy with family. Also I didn't know if you would even see me anyway, and if you did it might have just made me sad. So I didn't.
Please try not to fight with the crazies tonight, be safe and stay out of trouble. Have a great night and a happy new year, I'll always love you.

Made it upstate! Interesting so far. I went shopping today with Roy's brother so I didn't get into any fights. I don't trust his family with Lu so we are staying in. We will see how it goes. Hope you have a great New Year. You could've called. I was shopping in the city. Stores were open 24 hour.

That's sweet of your mom. She should dye her hair pink purple blue or green (the little bit she has) because this is possibly the only time in her life she would be justified in doing something so far out. Make a statement.

That's exactly what her doctor told her. I think she might go for it.